Reading List: March 2021

I read some wonderful books this month – my top three being Beartown, The Midnight Library and The House in the Cerulean Sea.

Beartown (Beartown, #1)
Beartown
by Fredrik Backman
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
A ​Sky Beyond the Storm (An Ember in the Ashes, #4)
A Sky Beyond the Storm
by Sabaa Tahir
⭐⭐⭐⭐
Sex, Murder and a Double Latte
Sex, Murder and a Double Latte
by Kyra Davis
⭐⭐
The Midnight Library
The Midnight Library
by Matt Haig
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Leah on the Offbeat (Creekwood, #2)
Leah on the Offbeat
by Becky Albertalli
⭐⭐⭐⭐
The Mothers
The Mothers
by Britt Bennett
⭐⭐⭐

Articles

Opinion: Joe Biden Knew He Was Onto Something Long Before We Did (New York Times)

Opinion: America Is Not Made for People Who Pee (NYT) – another piece on the severe lack of public toilets in the US (see also: this 1A episode When You Gotta Go: The Public Bathroom Problem)

Burnout Isn’t Just Exhaustion. Here’s How To Deal With It (NPR Life Kit)

The Stacey Abrams Effect (Marie Claire)

Why Black Women Are Rejecting Hospitals in Search of Better Births (New York Times)

An app that helps identify the Indigenous land you’re on

Late-Stage Pandemic Is Messing With Your Brain (The Atlantic)

Why This Wave of Anti-Asian Racism Feels Different (The Atlantic)

Handling the Emotional Weight of 1:1s

The Holy Grail of Transportation Is Right in Front of Us (New York Times)

She Experienced Busing in Boston. Now She’s the City’s First Black Mayor. (New York Times)

Other Bookish Things

Climate Fiction Reading List from Jeff VanderMeer (Goodreads)

Reading List: February 2021

Novels/Novellas

A Map of Days (Miss Peregrine's Peculiar Children, #4)
A Map of Days
Ransom Riggs
⭐⭐⭐⭐
The Conference of the Birds (Miss Peregrine's Peculiar Children, #5)
The Conference of the Birds
Ransom Riggs
⭐⭐⭐⭐
Before We Were Free
Before We Were Free
Julia Alvarez
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Throne of Glass (Throne of Glass, #1)
Throne of Glass
Sarah J. Maas
⭐⭐⭐
Maybe in Another Life
Maybe in Another Life
Taylor Jenkins Reid
⭐⭐⭐⭐

Articles and Essays

Don’t Let Queen Latifah’s Acting Career Overshadow Her Rap Legacy (Slate)

The Life in The Simpsons Is No Longer Attainable (The Atlantic)

Bring Back the Nervous Breakdown (The Atlantic) — oof, this one hits home. This past year has been exhausting; mentally and psychically draining. I think many of us are due for a good ol’ fashioned nervous breakdown.

The Lies Hollywood Tells Us About Little Girls by Mara Wilson (New York Times)

Isn’t 400 Years Enough? The Failure to appreciate Black history leaves our nation incomplete. (New York Times)

People’s words and actions can actually shape your brain — a neuroscientist explains how (TED.com)

Podcasts

When You Gotta Go: The Public Bathroom Problem (1A)

Despite rising salaries, the skilled-labor shortage is getting worse (PBS NewsHour)

Seizing Freedom

“STORIES OF FREEDOM TAKING AND FREEDOM MAKING DIRECTLY FROM THE PEOPLE WHO DID BOTH.
In most history classes, you learn that the Emancipation Proclamation and Union victories “freed the slaves.” But ending slavery in America required so much more than battlefield victories or even official declarations.”

“Freedom gets built up over time—through a billion tiny, everyday acts. It’s there in the chance to enlist and fight for a cause. It’s there in the effort to reunite families torn apart by the cruelty of slave trading. It’s there in the right to learn to read or found a church or decide how you want to make a living. And it’s there in the insistence on the legal recognition of the right to do all these things.

That’s the freedom you’ll hear about on this podcast, and you’ll hear about it directly from the people who seized it. All of the stories on this show are drawn from archives of voices from American history that have been muted time and time again.”

Reading List: January 2021

January was a pretty solid reading month, 2021 is off to a good start on that front!

Novels/Novellas

Red at the Bone

Red at the Bone, Jacqueline Woodson ⭐⭐⭐⭐

The Ardent Swarm

The Ardent Swarm, Yamen Manai ⭐⭐⭐⭐

The Assassin's Blade (Throne of Glass, #0.1-0.5)

The Assassin’s Blade, Sarah J. Maas ⭐⭐⭐

Einstein's Dreams

Einstein’s Dreams, Alan Lightman ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Britt-Marie Was Here

Britt-Marie Was Here, Fredrik Backman ⭐⭐⭐⭐

A Kind of Freedom

A Kind of Freedom, Margaret Wilkerson Sexton ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Articles, Podcasts, Poems

The Pandemic Has Erased Entire Categories of Friendship (The Atlantic)

The Hill We Climb by Amanda Gorman

The Still-Misunderstood Shape of the Clitoris (The Atlantic)

The lost girls: ‘Chaotic and curious, women with ADHD all have missed red flags that haunt us’ (The Guardian)

What Joe Biden Can’t Bring Himself to Say (The Atlantic)

28 Mini Rules That Have Drastically Simplified My Life (The Financial Diet)

America’s hollow middle class (Vox)

Reading List: July 2020

Books

Such a Fun Age:

Such a Fun Age

The Bright Side of Going Dark:

The Bright Side of Going Dark

Georgia Peaches and Other Forbidden Fruit:

Georgia Peaches and Other Forbidden Fruit

Red, White & Royal Blue: I loved this book! It was so surprisingly sweet and charming and hopeful.

Red, White & Royal Blue

I’m Not Dying with You Tonight:

I'm Not Dying with You Tonight

Articles

New York Times In Her Words: 7 Issues, 7 Days: https://www.nytimes.com/programs/womens-issues

Why Bus-Loving Rep. Ayanna Pressley Wants Transit to Be Free

The Bitter Southerner: The Power of Empty Pedestals

I learned about Town Line, NY from a discussion on Shavonda Gardner‘s IG Stories. Did you know the “last holdout of the Confederacy” was actually in upstate New York?

Pin It/Do It: Ticket Stub Memory Box

Months ago, I pinned a great idea to my Craft and DIY Projects board – a shadow box for storing and displaying ticket stubs. I’m happy to report that I finally got my act together and made one!

This is my take on the ticket stub memory box:

Here was my (p)inspiration:

I decided to go with two tickets instead of just one, because my intention with this project was to create a place for B and I to store mementos from things that we’ve done together or have special meaning for us as a couple, including:

    • lift tickets from a recent ski trip
    • my first commuter rail pass from when we moved in together
    • movie ticket stubs from dates

I’m hoping that we’ll continue to add to it, and be more mindful of saving these little mementos now that we have somewhere to keep them that doesn’t create clutter.

I’m having an issue with everything just falling to the bottom behind one another, instead of standing up and being seen, so I may end up tweaking this down the line somehow. Any suggestions?

Do you save ticket stubs or receipts from special moments? If so, how do you store them? Tucked away in a memory box? In a scrapbook? Something like this?

Gallery

Holidays recap

Now that the holidays are over, and the new year is underway, I’m able to relax a bit (without feeling guilty about doing so).I’m relieved that the holidays are over – it was a really exhausting stretch this year.  B’s busiest time of year is always between Thanksgiving and the New Year (hello, retail!), so to make it through the month with our sanity in tact, we usually just stick to the system that works for us. And by system I really just mean that I pick up some of the slack for a while. In turn, she has to go along with whatever crazy plans and projects I come up with. I muster up enough holiday spirit for the both of us and eventually infect her with my enthusiasm. It’s worked out pretty well for us the last few years. This year, though, not so much.

Problem this year was that I too was crazy busy at work during the same time, rolling out a project I’ve been working on for two years (!).  Needless to say, we were both exhausted, and the normal holiday things just didn’t happen.  I was tired and stressed out, and just couldn’t get into the spirit. I felt bad that the apartment was a mess, wasn’t decorated, and didn’t feel festive at all. I put in a valiant last-ditch effort and had a few successes. I think the wrapping turned out really nice, and I fully decorated the mantle and hung our stockings.

By the 23rd, I’d made progress, but it still didn’t feel like Christmas without a tree, so I went out and got one while B was at work. I’d planned to just get a little table-top one and call it good, but the smallest tree I could find was about 5′. So what did I do? I bought it anyway. A la Dr. Seuss, I somehow found the strength of ten Grinches, plus two – I shoved it in the back of the Jeep, drove it home, managed to get it up the back stairs, into the house, into the tree stand, and strung up with lights before she got out of work. How that happened, I still don’t quite understand. It was pretty and twinkle-y, albeit bare. We never got around to decorating it, except for the 2012 ornament I bought this year.

I didn’t get to everything I wanted to, and it wasn’t perfect, but you know what? It didn’t matter. We spent Christmas morning together, at home, in our pajamas, and just enjoyed the moment and each other’s company. Oh, and napped. We all did a lot of napping.

 

Reading List: Week of 10/21/12

Single Dad Laughing shares 16 things he would have done differently in his marriage(s) in the post 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage

Just found this great blog that I’ll be adding to my reading list: Fit and Feminist

A Special Olympian’s open letter to Ann Coulter:  Incredible. Perfect. Thank you.

Simmons College’s World Challenge program is incredible and so powerful. Watch the video here. I well up every time I watch it. So proud of my alma mater!

And, as the political is personal and the personal political…

Kergan Edwards-Stout’s letter asks that, if you’re planning to vote for Romney, then please de-friend him – while I completely agree with his reasons, and much of what he says, I don’t know if I could truly cut out from my life everyone with whom I disagree. This is an article I’ll likely be thinking about long after election day.

This Salon.com article recounts playwright Doug Wright’s recent Facebook post: 

“I wish my moderate Republican friends would simply be honest. They all say they’re voting for Romney because of his economic policies (tenuous and ill-formed as they are), and that they disagree with him on gay rights. Fine. Then look me in the eye, speak with a level clear voice, and say, “My taxes and take-home pay mean more than your fundamental civil rights, the sanctity of your marriage, your right to visit an ailing spouse in the hospital, your dignity as a citizen of this country, your healthcare, your right to inherit, the mental welfare and emotional well-being of your youth, and your very personhood.” 

It’s like voting for George Wallace during the Civil Rights movements, and apologizing for his racism. You’re still complicit. You’re still perpetuating anti-gay legislation and cultural homophobia. You don’t get to walk away clean, because you say you “disagree” with your candidate on these issues.”